This post mostly covers the three love theory of modern relationship. Before I start explaining, I would like to say that, I am not a dating coach or guru, neither a relationship expert. Then Why I am writing this post, Because, I am a big fan of Helen Fisher, an anthropologist, and scientist and Mark Manson, the NY time the best writer.
In the world of dating apps like Tinder and Happen, It is difficult to decide what you want? Relationship or sex, just a hookup or friendships.
People often confused sex with love or reverse of that, but most in the former case than the latter one. Love is the consequence of sex, then there might be
This is the problem with modern dating and relationship. If two people start with a “friends with the relationship” or “just a hookup”. Then love to get in between them, then this
Scientist like Helen, studies the cognitive of Love, relation, and dating, She was able to map the neurological component with modern love, dating
Anyone with fair amount of love and relationship can relate this in their life.
The three types of love she came up with her theories: Lust, passion
They are interrelated with each other and also independent to each other.
LOVE ONE: LUST
Lust is an instantaneous feeling that you can relate more often. It is pure and has instantaneous replication. Lust is yes/no proposition, simply you want to have sex or not at that instant moment. It is based on
In simple words,
Do you want to fuck him/her or not, right now? Yes or No?
LOVE TWO: PASSION
Passion is the connection occurs between two smitten people. Think of Romeo and Juliet, or like honeymoon couple those who wanted to spend every bit of time together.
Passion cannot exist without lust. But lust can exist without passion.
LOVE THREE: COMMITMENT
Commitment is when the passion of the lover exist to find a new generation. Commitment is a very powerful string that exists between two lovers.
According to research, the couples who reach the highest level of commitment find to merge with each other. By the way, the third love of commitment exists for a longer period of time.
THE MODERN RULE OF DATING
Tinder is what exists in this world. It’s complicated and so is modern dating.
Ok, back to the point, you are just trying to find everything without commitment. That’s all it call in my language. A proper dating leading to a perfect sex or either one.you just want all the benefits without commitment. This only leads to feeling apart or you may even develop one.
Lust cannot exist without passion and commitment cannot exist without passion. But you should know that lust cannot lead to commitment. Lust is
In this modern
EVERY RELATIONSHIP NEEDS TIME, BUT IF GIVE TIME YOU MAY LOSE!Choose wisely.